In fact You Could train them to use the toilet so no potty at all - though that's more of a long term plan. He has brought this upon himself. When “I can’t” comes rushing out, it feel like the response to an accusation. Types of things they do, in the fridge every second, ripping wallpaper off walls, being rude, breaking stuff, tipping all shower stuff away or filling sink with tissue and blocking the sink up, trashing there bedroom and won't help to put it back, hurt each other then they are best friends again, if I put one in time out the other will go over and set them off I just don't know what to do their dad works full time so it's just me. She is now almost blind, is on dialysis and awaiting a kidney transplant. My niece also ignored all guidance when she was diagnosed with type 2. Please select 'ok' to extend your session and prevent losing any content you are working on from being lost. Can't cope with my ADD/ODD child. I feel so angry all the time and depressed. I cannot cope with my life. I read a book called magic 123 a few months ago and it's been very helpful. I can’t cope with my health issues anymore and nobody can figure out what’s wrong. I just had a quiet menacing hiss, a death stare, and an air of uncontested authority! If you don’t feel confident at first, fake it til you make it. Take them out for physical play every day if possible. i attempted a social outing today, unfortunately came head on with my boyfriends brothers girlfriends, who individually I get along great with, but when they are together one gets very possessive of the other and I'm clearly reminded 3 is a crowd but that's more about her insecurities so proud to say I actually didn't have a meltdown over that :)Â, I will try to take the pressure off myself somewhat, re establish some routine, and get a handle on things. my partner either stays upstairs in bed all day or … I’m anemic so I just want to sleep all the time, but I can’t take my iron pills as I know they will upset my tummy further. I broke up with my partner of 4 years around the time she changed and I don't know if that is it, because I didn't think she even was that fond of him. Today I have turned my back on my mum because I can't cope anymore. So no potty anywhere near the sofa - keep it in the bathroom. Be kind to yourself. Please someone just listen to me for once. He can’t go out unaided and he spends a lot of time crying.  It is an exhausting state of mind that's for sure as many know. I will keep this is point form Whispa...These work for some and maybe not for others... * Your mind is not nasty....its tired, the dreadful feelings you have are the sign of a tired and 'racing' mind, * This is the same as a physical injury...you cant 'snap out' having the flu...broken leg...infection...toothache, * Anxiety/Depression do release chemicals in the brain...physiological issue...the feelings are the end result. Get DH to help in getting everything secure with locks -you can just put catches/ hooks at the top of doors, so they ca nt get in the kitchen( or whatever room you're not in).Then sign up for a parenting course because you have to crack this before the baby arrives. I don't know if I'm a bit too hard on her sometimes because of my frustration and emotions that I can't seem to get control of. Also divide and conquer-have one in trolley at supermarket, one in pushchair (take turns if nec). Help! I need a break, but don't know which way to turn. I made some dumb decisions in the past, and like many others got caught up with a violent boyfriend. Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. You need to work on your confidence - it’s like officer training, you need to practice being in charge. Can't think what it's called but you get someone who becomes a family friend basically and helps mums struggling with young children. We also have a cat who he looks for in the house at least 3 times an hour and if he can’t find him it sends him into a blind panic - … Is there a DP in this to support you?I think you need to reach out ASAP to a health visitor, explain the situation, and ask them for help. I don't think tearing off the wallpaper, blocking the sink with paper and emptying a potty on the sofa is normal. but most painful, I've lost my ability with my horses. They should not be able to access anything messy/dangerous. Join the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak, Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has any advice or coping methods on this? But she too can daydream in the mornings. It sounds really hard, and there is no one size fits all solution. I’m a firm believer that the devil has work for idle hands to do. It's gruelling and pushes every button.Is there any holiday clubs that working mums use near you? I’d spend much less time on cleaning, and more on activities to occupy the troops, improving their behaviour. God bless. Stay out as long as you can, then straight into winding down tidy/ tea/ bath / story / bed routine. I never bothered. To think that high levels of children being sent to school are the beginnings of lockdown resistance from the working age population. She does help me a fair bit when it comes to house work and the boys. I used to book mine in for a few days a week in holiday to give myself a break (sahm).They obviously have basic understanding being so little, try and give structured 'destroying' time.. via YouTube Capture. Sounds a nightmare, and being pregnant again you must be very tired.I had 3 children, and what 's coming across is that your home is not child proofed.You need child proof locks on everything - fridge, cupboards, doors. I’ve been in bed most of sunday and most of today with an ongoing migraine which I know has been because of the stress of arguing. The only thing that helps me through the rock bottom times is my belief in angels, past on to me when i lost my mother in law. I barely cope with mine but what I do find helps is getting out every morning at 9 and heading to somewhere with open space - the woods is my favourite - for them to run around and explore. the guys is using you. Your Housing and financial situation like are there benefits you are eligible f… Once they’re civilised, you can enjoy outings where they won’t disgrace you and cause havoc! There are sadly a lot of people in the world who hurt others, seemingly more and more often, but there is no sense letting that dictate my life, deal with whatever as it comes.Â, Thanks for your response, best wishes to you and everyone on these forums having their own personal battles 👍🙂. He works 5 days a week morning to evening so time he gets in I've somehow managed to get them into bed so he doesn't see them as such. My DD is 4 my DS is 3 and I'm 20 weeks with my third that I'm now regretting. Il work on that again. And there’ll be far less wreckage to clean at home. Don't be afraid to give them a sound bollocking - imo overly gentle parenting leads to poor behaviour later on in life in some cases (not a criticism, just an observation of the accepted current wisdom). In our house it seems their favourite game is emptying all of the toys and mixing them up together I to some mountain of toy hell. Also I avoid shops and crowded places at all costs. I'm so tired of fighting them it's making me wish I never became a parent I'm obviously not good enough. I never needed to shout, either. A large chunk of the book is dedicated to positive parenting, as the other side of the coin to the discipline. My 10 year old is my daughter who is a mother hen. The second thing you need to do is to stop listening to everyone else telling you that you did this, that, or the other thing wrong. The basic idea is as soon as Dd starts doing something i want her to stop, i say "that's a 1". I start questioning whether I am at some kind of fault. Firstly... sending hugs!! 21 February 2016 If you believe in yourself, the DC will too. I get no help from family at all I get no break unless they are at school which my DD doesn't start full time until late September so I'm hoping she improves then. But then we let things slide and have to get back on it. Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. Whenever I fail to cope up any emotional turmoils, excessive pressure or conflict, I distract myself from everything with over sleeping and over eating. I do have a GP I find very good to talk to, unfortunately so does everyone else haha, so the wait to get in to him is rather long, and by the time my appointment rolls around I have got embarrassed and talk myself out of it. It was a great year. I can’t stop it from coming back. I can't cope no more, I can't except it and never will.i wanna be like everyone else I find myself looking at people and just thiking bet she has peace and quiet. Q. Erin, I can’t cope with my husband’s demands. in reply to. I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia. Well as the title says I cant cope with this life anymore. Your child’s needs 2. my mind will not let me be happy! I've had a normal upbringing, no major dramas. Take one swimming or something else you can enjoy together-they can be so much easier and much more fun 1-1-rediscover your joy with them.Do as much as you can online/while they are asleep. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. 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